Yesterday, I was talking to a young man who told me a sad story, which I have heard many times in my relationship counselling over the years. He told me that, together with his wife, they raised money to buy a house together. They got married but, after three months of marriage, his wife left him and had an affair with his colleague. The marriage broke down, and he was forced out of the house, lost his job, and he was left to take care of the dog that the couple owned. Basically his life went up-side down, because of a relationship that went bad.
After listening to this sad story, I asked him what his plans were. I was interested to know if he had recovered. I asked him if he was going to be dating again soon. He said something that struck me, he said: “I will never trust a woman again, even if I date I will never get married again”. This is a sad story to hear from a young man 31 years old.
Today is my wife’s birthday. I was reflecting on my amazing relationship with my wife Josie today. The story of this young man came to mind. I celebrate her life and that she is such an extraordinary individual. I really thank God for her, and I know that she is my treasured GIFT from God. I love her and want to spend my life and eternity with her. She is a great, and exemplary mother to our two children, and to many more spiritual children around the world. This is my story.
Many times, bad experiences in life put us off great things that God may have in store for us. Scripture tells us that marriage was made for our pleasure and enjoyment: “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19 ESV
The Bible also says that when you have good wife, you get favour from God. (Proverbs 18:22)
The man I wrote about earlier seems to have given up hope about ever having a great relationship again. This was his story. In life many people that have been betrayed, divorced, abused, hurt and had sour relationships, have given up hope for a good relationship in the future.
I have an encouraging word for you. It is possible to have a beautiful relationship that is sweeter than honey. It is possible to love again, to trust again, to embrace again, and to be happy again. How do I know? I am telling you from my experience. God is able to give you joyful relationships, it is possible. Trust God and know that it is His will that you have a relationship that is like heaven on earth.
Despite any disappointment, divorce, distrust and delay God can still send someone to love you and make you happy! Today, I am joining my faith with yours to believe and trust God for a breakthrough in the area of marriage and relationships. It is possible. I believe that God can still repair marriages. If you are single waiting for a mate, God can still find you a match made in heaven.
I wrote my wife a letter for her birthday, you can read it here.